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Setting Intentions
This week - the one between Christmas and New Year’s Day - always feels a bit strange. Today I'm feeling half "holiday blues" and half hopeful for what’s to come.
For most of us, January is about newness. We often feel compelled to get "back on track" after the holiday busyness, or we find ourselves inspired to be a different version of ourselves. As an Enneagram Three, I'm always looking for new ways to improve myself and my life, so I love to set intentions for the New Year.
Nine Types of Rest
Earlier this year, I was feeling burned out. I was working full time at a start-up, going to grad school, running my Instagram account, starting my coaching business, and planning a move across the state. I had a lot going on. In the midst of the busyness, a friend challenged me to take some time away from Instagram and my burgeoning business to be present in the most urgent spaces as I wrapped up one milestone in my career before moving on to the next thing.
“Nine Types of Rest” felt like the perfect title for a post: I was both encouraging others to rest while also speaking to myself. In June 2019, I asked in my Instagram stories, “What does rest mean for you?” and I was overwhelmed by the responses. As I sat down to read them, I began to notice themes emerging in the answers. Many Ones requested a vacation, while Twos just wished they could exist without being helpful.
As I combined the answers I read with my Enneagram knowledge, the list began to take shape:
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Getting on Each Others’ Nerves
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We all get on each others’ nerves every now and then.
When I say we “get on each others’ nerves,” what I mean is that we all do things that irritate others, and others do things that irritate us. I truly believe this is just a natural part of being a human in relationships with other humans.
We especially tend to get irritated when we see our own unwanted behavior in others OR when we experience others’ behavior as an accusation. For example, if a coworker edited your writing on a shared document, it could be easy to think, “Wow, she must just think I’m not smart enough to figure this out,” when in reality, the coworker might be thinking…