Feeling connected to the self & others by Enneagram type 💫

You'll notice that most of the types have a few things in common! We all feel more connected to others when we:
· engage in deep conversations with active listening both ways
· work collaboratively with those around us
· feel understood - or at least that others want to understand us
And we all feel more connected to ourselves when we take time for rest and alone time to meet our practical self-care needs.

This series was inspired by real responses from people across all nine Enneagram types, sharing what they love and value most about the other types in their lives and themselves. This is part two.

This series was inspired by real responses from people across all nine Enneagram types, sharing what they love and value most about the other types in their lives.

I’m highlighting what other types have said they appreciate about each Enneagram type. You'll find an image for each type below, so whether you're sharing it with a friend or keeping it for yourself, I hope it offers warm and genuine encouragement.

There's real value in being able to name what you naturally bring to the table. When I shared something similar in the past, I heard from people who were using it to update their resumes. So, get that resume out if you’re looking to update!

Whether you’re looking for a job or not, I think seeing and knowing your strengths is important.

In my years of working with the Enneagram, I’ve heard a lot of talk about which Enneagram type is “the worst.” This kind of talk is not okay — and it’s not helpful. There are plenty of reasons we don’t get along with certain people, and it is absolutely fine not to click with everyone. But that doesn’t mean any type is “the worst.” If the Enneagram isn’t helping us become more kind, compassionate, and understanding — toward ourselves and others — then what’s the point? So let’s settle this once and for all.

Whether a behavior has a positive or negative impact on your life, it often originates in meeting a real need. So these lists aren’t intended to judge whether you do or don’t do them! It’s all about giving permission to find your type even if the description isn’t a “perfect” fit.

When we think of resilience, we often think about bouncing back and trying again, as if nothing ever happened. And while this might seem admirable on the outside, this response often requires ignoring, fleeing, or otherwise stuffing away feelings without processing them. In times of crisis, setting feelings aside might be necessary temporarily, but we can’t truly grow, build real resilience, or move forward if we don’t actually process emotions.

What self-compassion can you extend toward yourself today?
Where can you affirm yourself as you already are?

What are you like when falling in love? These tendencies were submitted when I asked about falling in love in my Instagram stories. As you read, keep in mind that these describe behaviors of the types, whereas the Enneagram is about core motivation.

Most of us interact with stressors in our lives in various ways. On a given day, we might express unhealthy AND healthy responses to a challenging situation - the same is true with break-ups! You do not have to be 100% healthy all the time to still be growing - that would be exhausting! Growth begins with simply noticing the unhealthy responses and reaching out when you need support. 🌿