In my years of working with the Enneagram, I’ve heard a lot of talk about which Enneagram type is “the worst.” This kind of talk is not okay — and it’s not helpful. There are plenty of reasons we don’t get along with certain people, and it is absolutely fine not to click with everyone. But that doesn’t mean any type is “the worst.” If the Enneagram isn’t helping us become more kind, compassionate, and understanding — toward ourselves and others — then what’s the point? So let’s settle this once and for all.

Whether a behavior has a positive or negative impact on your life, it often originates in meeting a real need. So these lists aren’t intended to judge whether you do or don’t do them! It’s all about giving permission to find your type even if the description isn’t a “perfect” fit.

When we think of resilience, we often think about bouncing back and trying again, as if nothing ever happened. And while this might seem admirable on the outside, this response often requires ignoring, fleeing, or otherwise stuffing away feelings without processing them. In times of crisis, setting feelings aside might be necessary temporarily, but we can’t truly grow, build real resilience, or move forward if we don’t actually process emotions.

What self-compassion can you extend toward yourself today?
Where can you affirm yourself as you already are?

What are you like when falling in love? These tendencies were submitted when I asked about falling in love in my Instagram stories. As you read, keep in mind that these describe behaviors of the types, whereas the Enneagram is about core motivation.

Most of us interact with stressors in our lives in various ways. On a given day, we might express unhealthy AND healthy responses to a challenging situation - the same is true with break-ups! You do not have to be 100% healthy all the time to still be growing - that would be exhausting! Growth begins with simply noticing the unhealthy responses and reaching out when you need support. 🌿

In this post, I’ll share some ideas about chapters we might include in a memoir. This post is just for fun! And yes, they are definitely a little exaggerated and probably not the most flattering depictions of any of us. We can be honest about our hangups together!

I thought of a few commonalities between the types and framed them as chapter titles. Remember, this is by no means extensive! Feel free to claim a title not specified for your type.

I would normally let this idea pass on (I have a graveyard of post ideas that will never see the light of day 😉🪦), but ’tis the season, so why not! I was thinking about the phrase, “That’ll be on my tombstone” (and similar sentences), so those inspired this post.